How To Find Happiness OR It's Important To Feel Bad
I am an expert at helping people feel good. Even the most hardened person needs loving touch. It releases beta-endorphins, and suddenly the world becomes a great place. Beta-endorphins help us feel happy and physically good. They're so important to us that our economy runs on beta-endorphins and the latest high. In fact, we are naturally hardwired for happiness. So why are we so unhappy?
There isn't a magic "feel good" pill that works on everyone. Many philosophers and spiritual practices, however, agree that the higher you go, the further you fall. True in mountain climbing and beliefs/emotions. For many, spiritual bliss isn't feeling wonderful, it's feeling all of our emotions, and not going overboard with them. Those great words like moderation and balance. We have the ability to feel so in love, so fantastic, so amazing and also horribly miserable, lonely and broken. The higher we go, the further we fall. In a culture based on feeling phenomenal, we are set up to feel terrible.
In this extreme environment, most people start to believe the good feelings aren't worth the bad, and stop feeling altogether- clinical depression. We shut down, don't care, feel exhausted and then sometimes, frantically look for the ANSWER, a way to only feel good and never feel bad because feeling bad hurts so much. On the other hand, not feeling at all, hurts too. All emotions increase circulation, decrease and block pain and strengthen our immune system. We need feelings, both comfortable and uncomfortable, to stay healthy and grow.
When we choose to feel, it means we feel everything. We feel amazing to the depth we feel lousy. Many spiritual elders live simply, quietly and mindfully- without drama, drugs or the rat race. Shopping, romance, alcohol/nicotine protect us from hard emotions, while demanding a high price. Caring hurts. When it hurts too much, we shut down and can get stuck until the next mystical experience or horrible crises comes along. Stressful lifestyles, emotional relationships and dramatic beliefs sweep us up until we feel lost and misplace part of our soul.
We all get lost sometimes and it looks like a depressed immune system, workaholic, disintegrating relationship, back pain, clinical depression, anxiety, headache, chronic conditions etc. Pain can be our bodies way of expressing hard emotions like anger or sadness when we won't feel it any other way. Powering through it because it's "good for us" or numbing the pain only makes it worse. Our personal reality expresses our emotions and keeping ourselves from going too high or too low can help us stay healthy and develop great lives and relationships.
By letting ourselves feel bad when it comes knocking on the door, we can feel it, move through it and enjoy life again. Before it becomes a crises.
There isn't a magic "feel good" pill that works on everyone. Many philosophers and spiritual practices, however, agree that the higher you go, the further you fall. True in mountain climbing and beliefs/emotions. For many, spiritual bliss isn't feeling wonderful, it's feeling all of our emotions, and not going overboard with them. Those great words like moderation and balance. We have the ability to feel so in love, so fantastic, so amazing and also horribly miserable, lonely and broken. The higher we go, the further we fall. In a culture based on feeling phenomenal, we are set up to feel terrible.
In this extreme environment, most people start to believe the good feelings aren't worth the bad, and stop feeling altogether- clinical depression. We shut down, don't care, feel exhausted and then sometimes, frantically look for the ANSWER, a way to only feel good and never feel bad because feeling bad hurts so much. On the other hand, not feeling at all, hurts too. All emotions increase circulation, decrease and block pain and strengthen our immune system. We need feelings, both comfortable and uncomfortable, to stay healthy and grow.
When we choose to feel, it means we feel everything. We feel amazing to the depth we feel lousy. Many spiritual elders live simply, quietly and mindfully- without drama, drugs or the rat race. Shopping, romance, alcohol/nicotine protect us from hard emotions, while demanding a high price. Caring hurts. When it hurts too much, we shut down and can get stuck until the next mystical experience or horrible crises comes along. Stressful lifestyles, emotional relationships and dramatic beliefs sweep us up until we feel lost and misplace part of our soul.
We all get lost sometimes and it looks like a depressed immune system, workaholic, disintegrating relationship, back pain, clinical depression, anxiety, headache, chronic conditions etc. Pain can be our bodies way of expressing hard emotions like anger or sadness when we won't feel it any other way. Powering through it because it's "good for us" or numbing the pain only makes it worse. Our personal reality expresses our emotions and keeping ourselves from going too high or too low can help us stay healthy and develop great lives and relationships.
By letting ourselves feel bad when it comes knocking on the door, we can feel it, move through it and enjoy life again. Before it becomes a crises.
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